Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Black Men: How We Treat Our Women

Chicago Defender: Domestic violence hits Black women harder

Domestic violence is a pattern of mental, physical, emotional or sexual abuse where one partner makes the other partner feel scared, weak, isolated, hurt or sad, according to Between Friends, a Chicago-based non-profit agency that provides educational and counseling services for domestic violence victims and advocates.

“One in three women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime so everybody probably knows someone who has been affected,” said Kathy Doherty, executive director of Between Friends.

I do my fair share of sampling of "Black Independent movies" as a means of keeping up with the popular culture. One thing that stands out is the language that is used between Black males and females. For some people aggressive confrontation where they call their woman a "Bitch" is the norm. The female, taking it in as a normal response - backs down. The scar tissue that has been built up (or the normalization of this language) has her taking it stride on the outside but indeed her soul (and confidence) has been rattled.

With all of the focus on what we allow others to call us - it is high time that our community start setting limits on interaction internally. I assure you that these "deaths by a thousand cuts" add up to be equal to the external offense that gets more press.

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