Saturday, January 24, 2015

In Reviewing The '3rd Party Fight Promotion" Between Mike Huckabee And Michelle Williams Over Huckabee's Comments About Beyonce' The Conversation Focused On "Beyonce The Person" And NOT The Common "Christianity" That All 3 Of Them Claim


This is my "Cultural Strategy" blog and not my political analysis blog (See "Within The Black Community" for that) so I am going to take a different emphasis.

First of all - I have to credit Michelle Williams, former member of "Destiny's Child" and friend of Beyonce, for the composure in her response.

If you read the coverage of the interaction between "Williams" and  "Huckabee" on "The View" - from 3rd party sources you would swear that some (ignorant) smack down has taken place and "The White  ignorant ole man got checked".   Instead Michelle Williams showed some class in her public response.





The video above proved most instructive.

Rosy O'Donnell - the critic of "Christianity" said "YOU CAN'T MESS WITH THE BEY".

If you think about her argument it is 100% rooted in "SECULAR IDEOLOGY".

BY WHAT MEANS "can you not mess with the Bey"?
  • Because in her POPULARITY she is always right?
  • Because she has some type of grounding that all of us should yield to?
The truth is - Beyonce' is every bit of the "CAPITALISTIC 1%" that most people on the panel on "The View" rail against.   The difference is - Beyonce' is not a "Wall Street Capitalist" and doesn't appear on the people's 'dart board'.

My greatest criticism, however is reserved for the missed opportunity shared by "Mike Huckabee" and "Michelle Williams".

Huckabee the "Former Christian Preacher" and Michelle Williams the "occasional Christian gospel singer" have ONE COMMON ORACLE that they should have agreed to YIELD THEIR PERSONAL SENTIMENTS TO as they appraise "Beyonce's work" NOT BASED UPON HER PERSONAL CHOICES but instead based upon what SHE PROFESSES TO BE - A CHRISTIAN.

Indeed people are influenced by the messages that Beyonce and others who "contribute to our CULTURE" put forth in "the water that we drink".    As a christian we are asked to SWIM AGAINST THE TIDE and retain the integrity of our faith in "Jesus Christ".


Mike Huckabee - though I can understand (after reading "Kelvin Cochran's book "Who Told You That You Were Naked" which was written to WAYWARD YOUNG MEN, with the hopes that they would find a purpose in their lives) how an author can resent having a small passage in his book be maligned and molested so that the constructive message is filibustered out of the discussion, Huckabee failed to bring the argument into this COMMON REFERENCE for scrutiny.

Michelle Williams, defended her friend - saying that these two songs - as a small part of a larger whole, were "freaky songs" (my words) that "Beyonce had pinned up within her".   Williams, ironically was asking Huckabee to not tarnish the greater whole of the album based on these two songs.

I can't accept this as an argument for the very same reasons why I firmly stand by THE MESSAGE that Kelvin Cochran has put forth.

The consistency is in "The Word" - and the "one part per million" that some are OFFENDED by:
  • In the case of "Who Told You That You Were Naked" - critical references to "Homosexuality" as "Unclean Living
  • In the case of "Beyonce" - Two "Freeky Tracks" on an album that had about 10 songs
the COMMON REFERENCE that all yield their arguments to should prevent people from "Majoring In The Minors" BUT ALSO - prevent the old adage from becoming true:

"When a large bag of SUGAR is mixed with a small piece of FECES - ONLY ONE OF THEM retain their original integrity".


Sunday, January 11, 2015

When My Close Family Friends Divorce I Can't Help But To Consider "What Could I Have Done To Help?"

Recently my wife told me that a pair of family friends have chosen to get a divorce.  

This couple who was once the core of our "house party circuit" seemed to be happy together.  They had a bond that produced 3 children and an upper-middle class amount of comfortable living.

When they moved away a few years ago - under the guise of a "job promotion" I called them brave for "Following Their Dreams".    Now I wonder if they moved in order to "disconnect" from their network of friends  (Us) so that they can either "work it out" or "go their own separate ways".

I have some other group of friends who I met in college and they all settled in the metro-Atlanta area.   Over time we gathered together for house-parties and to watch "Mike Tyson" destroy his adversaries - and for membership in an "Investment Club" - back when the "Internet Bubble" had made it easy to make you believe that you were an "expert stock analyst".

The subsequent years in which we "got married", "had children" and, in some cases, moved to a larger house - all worked to reduce the number of occasions that we'd get together at a "house party".
In some cases I am astounded and anger that they "little baby" is now a teenager.   How did a person who I spent nearly every weekend with fall out of my "inner circle"?


Updated today - the news that these close friends are now parting ways "hurts me inside".

"What if my wife and I worked harder to break out of our own shell to reach out to these friends?  Would this have been the spark to keep them together?"   A question that a lot of "children of divorce" ask relative to their parents.


There is no question that when friends come to my own house - it draws us all away from our "individual televisions" into the family room.   We play "dominoes"and "bingo" (or any other cheap game I purchase at Wal-Mart/Toys R Us), fight over a movie to watch on "Netflix" before reaching "cross-generational agreement".  But most of all the CONVERSATION is key.

I hear my wife tell me details about her recent experiences that she did not describe for me.  It is also true that I am guilty of the same.    The point is that you can learn more details about your "life partner" by having a person from another time in their lives - coming for a visit and provoking the MEMORIES that your own conversations did not provoke for discussion.

If there is any solace to the end of these married relationships - it is that I can think of none of my friends who divorced with "elementary school aged children" still at home.   At worse - they part ways when the kids are in high school, but most frequently it is after the kids have left for college.

I know none of them in which "physical violence" or abuse was the issue that broke them apart.  The quest for "happiness" beyond the frequent arguments and also "infidelity" appear to be the primary points of separation.